Y’all have gotten an up-close and personal look into every aspect of my current situation. I apologize to the ones that are just around to see what new organization project I have going on. There will be a ton of new organizing posts once a U-Haul pulls into our driveway and we officially make “the move.” And, believe me, I am super giddy about them. But, until that moment comes, I feel this is the perfect time to connect more with y’all and let my personality shine a little bit more.
Honestly, I have always been a guarded person. Through some of my life experiences, which I don’t really want to discuss openly yet because I don’t want to hurt people’s feelings, I have a hard time trusting people. Besides being an outlet for my creative and organizational side, this space is also a place for me to gradually tear down the wall I have built around myself. I am sure some people can relate.
Just like I have told y’all before, I am better at expressing myself through writing than verbally. So, I am using this moving process to open up and share some posts about myself. I hope that is ok!
Today is all about change. Have you ever noticed how every person handles change differently? You have people that live for adventures and are ready to make a change at the drop of a hat. Then, you have those people that run from any appearance of it. Well, through this moving process, I have seen every type. At first glance, I have gotten upset at the ones that haven’t handled it the way I wanted them to or felt they should. Then, I forced myself to stop and evaluate the situation.
And, after a lot of thought, I realized that…
Everyone copes differently!
The older I get, the more I realize that it is ok that others are not like me. I haven’t completely grasped the concept, but I am getting there. If we rewind and go back 10 years, you would see a young and naive girl that worried and pondered why individuals didn’t handle situations in the “correct manner.” You know, the manner I felt was right. Now, I look at that girl and shake my head. Situations are never as they appear at face value. I am surprised I didn’t give myself a heart attack worrying about fixing every situation in the world.
Today, that young and naive girl has learned a little bit more about life. I owe it all to having children! Once my kids entered this world, my perspectives changed. I learned pretty quickly that having the perfect shirt wasn’t what life was about. I am ok with having one with slobber and fingerprints on it now because I usually don’t have enough time to worry about myself in the mornings.
In this moving situation alone, I have seen people around me cope with it differently. I am trying my best to remember the “everyone copes differently” fact in my head before getting upset, but I will admit, it is tough.
So, what types of individuals am I talking about?
- The Distance Seeker – These individuals learned we were moving and decided it was best if they avoided the situation to the best of their ability. I am not sure if it is because they would get emotional around us or not, but they try to avoid contact when possible.
- The Cheerleader – These individuals have been above and beyond excited for our move and wish us the best.
- The Unselfish Helper – These individuals may be experiencing sadness or pain from us leaving, but they are pushing that all away to help in any way possible.
- The Honesty Provider – These individuals are not afraid to tell us how they really feel, but have the best intentions at heart.
Out of all of these, I have the hardest time dealing with the distance seeker. I know these people may not be able to help it because it is part of their makeup, but it is still difficult. In the back of my mind, their actions make me question myself. Have I done something wrong? Are they mad at me? Why won’t they talk to me?
I will admit that I have probably done this to others a time or two in the past without any knowledge of it, and I would probably think twice now being on the other end of the deal.
It just makes you wonder if things will always remain distant or if things will settle down after the change sinks in. At the moment, it is all a mystery to me! Even if someone could look in the future and tell me that things will turn out fine, it still hurts.
Change in Inevitable
I am a routine/planner/schedule type of person. So, change isn’t the easiest for me. I understand that change is inevitable and it is honestly one of those things that can’t be halfway done. Change either happens or it doesn’t. No halfway business!
So, you have to either make the jump or sit it out. The decision is up to you! And, in this situation, we decided to jump!
We aren’t psychics or fortune tellers, so we will have to experience the change to know if it was the right jump. But, that is part of life.
I will leave you with this quote that a special blog reader shared with me and it has stuck with me ever since and has helped me through the process.
So, here we go…
Jumping head first into this change. Praying to God the whole way!
One more week and that U-Haul will make it’s way to our driveway. So, next week may be full of moving printables and posts.
Have a wonderful weekend and thanks again for sharing this journey with me!