Like the quote I posted before about forgiveness, this “Madea Goes To Jail” quote really stuck with me too. It is taken from the part when Madea is in the prison counseling session and one of the prisoners is trying to blame her father for her being in jail. Madea has the following response to her complaining…
“Everybody in this place has a story…Your momma and your daddy gave you life. That is all they were supposed to do. No matter how good or how bad the life is… It is up to you to make something of it!”
I find this statement to be a very true one. It seems like so many times we hear individuals in public, on tv, or in magazines blaming their parents for how they turned out. If you are above the age of 18, do not live with your parents, and pay your own bills, then the blaming should cease. At some point, individuals have to take responsibility for their own life. If you are doing something that you know is wrong, then stop! God has given each one of us a brain to use and a conscience (that I call my Jiminy Cricket) to judge right from wrong.
My parents divorced when I was four, almost five, years old. It was not the easiest situation in the world, but I made it through it. It would’ve been very easy for me to use that divorce as a crutch for the rest of my life. Instead, I used it as a motivation tool to push myself harder. Sometimes I feel that I should’ve been a little bit easier on myself, but I can’t go back and change the past. I can only learn from it!
In most situations, I believe that our parents do the best they can. Some parents are more capable of caring for their children than others, but that doesn’t make them bad people. Now that I am getting older (I know almost 30 isn’t old), I try to look back on my life so far and understand the position individuals in my life were in at certain periods of time (I think parenting brings out a softer side in us.). I have learned at the end of the day it is up to me what the story of my life will be, not my parents. I can use them as a living example in my life, but can’t blame them for my shortfalls!