Myrtle: You know I know this man put a hurtin’ on you baby, but you’ve got to forgive him. No matter what he done, you’ve got to forgive him – not for him, but for you.
Helen: Forgive him for me?
Myrtle: When some body hurts you they take power over you, if you don’t forgive them then they keeps the power. Forgive him baby and after you forgive him, forgive yourself.
The scene above is from the movie “Diary of a Mad Black Woman.” I have watched all of the Tyler Perry movies and love them all! If you haven’t sat down and watched one of them, you definitely should. This particular scene is one that has stuck with me and impacted my life since I watched the movie back in 2006. Every time I feel wronged in my life, somehow this pops in my head. For the longest time, every time someone did something to me, said the wrong thing, or even looked at me wrong, I held a grudge. And, I can be honest, I got pretty good at it! And, my attitude started to show it too. Then, I heard Madea say, “forgive him… for you.” I had never heard that phrase before, but it made complete sense. When we hold grudges and are hateful to other people, we are only hurting ourselves. The other people are still going through life without any worries or the pain that we are experiencing. So, that is what I started doing, gradually. Believe me, this has not been an easy task and I fall short many times. But, I am getting better at forgiveness everyday. I have had several people in my life that have not been there for me or treated me the way I thought I should be treated and I let that eat away at me. My personality became hateful and I am sure I wasn’t pleasant to be around. We as humans can sit and re-evaluate and over analyze any situation, but it isn’t going to change anything. The people that are taking power over our lives are still going to be the same, no matter how much time we spend trying to tell them they are wrong. So, we must forgive and move on for ourselves in order for us to live a happy and productive life. I don’t want to wake up 60 years old and realize that I spent my whole life unhappy because of others. So, lets forgive, live, and enjoy the beautiful life that God gave us!!!